Menstruation is a natural process in our body and part of the menstrual cycle which is fundamental to our health.
For many years, we’ve believed that menstruation is something dirty, something that we can't talk about, and that we should feel ashamed of.
As Judy Grahn said,
“Menstrual blood is the only source of blood that is not traumatically induced. Yet in modern society, this is the most hidden blood"
And just as menstruation is natural, so is sex, so that brings us to another topic, which is also often taboo: Sex on your period.
In this article, we’ll give you the ABCs of sex during your period and help you get to know and love your body and to explore its sensations, no matter at what time of the month you are.
Can you have sex during your period?
Many menstruating people discard sex during their period, assuming it would be a problem for their partner, but, there’s no existing rule that prevents us from having sex during our period.
The most important thing is that you and your partner or sexmate talk about it and feel comfortable doing it.
The dialogue with the person with whom you want to share this moment, is almost as important as the sex itself.
We need to learn how to communicate, so that both parties know what the other likes to make the pleasure even greater.
Try and avoid prejudices - we all have them. It will change the way you understand your body.
Period sex is completely natural and communicating about it can make you both more confident together.
Benefits of having sex during your period
Having sex during your period brings much more benefits than you can imagine:
1. Goodbye to headaches
Having orgasms gives us relief from menstrual cramps and headaches.
This happens because the muscles of the uterus contract when we have an orgasm, but then they relax and give us relief.
Also, our brain produces endorphins, the hormone of happiness that makes us feel good, calm, and in a better mood.
2. No need for lubricants
The whole area is very wet. Remember that our menstrual flow is not only blood, but we also expel other substances that help with the moistening of the vulva.
3. The feel-good hormones
are released during sexual activity and can eliminate the symptoms of PMS. Those friendly hormones can counteract some of the negative premenstrual issues that we struggle with each month, like irritability, depression, and anxiety.
4. Greater libido
During menstruation, the level of progesterone decreases and estrogens increase, thus until ovulation, many women experience greater sexual desire. So you have good opportunity to take advantage of this stage of the cycle, either by masturbating yourself or by having sex with someone.
Tarantino movie in the making
Like all Tarantino movies, period sex can be gory and messy but it can also be really good. Not everyone likes period sex, but gurl...
YOUR VAGINA, YOUR CHOICE!
Don't worry about staining everything.
You can place a towel on the bed as protection or have sex in places where the risk of staining is not a problem, such as a shower or a bathtub. And assuming something did get stained, what's the problem if you've had fun?
(Video by Lorena Ruiz Pellicero)
Here are some more tips for you:
- Sex in the shower, hot water keeps you clean.
- Besides penetration, there are other types of sex, that you can try during your period. There is anal, oral, or other kinds of sex where you might feel more comfortable. And these can be enjoyed while you’re wearing a menstrual cup, if you prefer the blood to stay inside the vagina.
- Keep tissues on hand for later.
We should never feel embarrassed by a totally natural process in our body, so talk to the mirror, you’ve got it! Experiment and make the most of every day of the month.
Can sex delay your period?
The answer is no, but there are many factors as to why your period can be delayed.
Why is our period late?
- Our period can be delayed by anxiety, stress, and changes to your diet.
- The use of the emergency pill can delay the period, as it produces an increase in hormones that can cause irregularity in the menstrual cycle.
- Hormone contraceptives sometimes affect the menstrual cycle and make it irregular for a time, until the body gets used to them.
- Hormonal imbalances such as polycystic ovary syndrome cause a menstrual delay due to the alteration in hormonal function.
Can I get pregnant during my period?
The probability of getting pregnant if you have sex while on your period is low. The days of your period don't correspond to the fertile days, but this doesn't mean that it is impossible!
So what are your chances of getting pregnant during your period?
Well, it depends on many factors such as the following:
Whether you have used contraceptives or not;
The length of your menstrual cycle;
The length of your period;
When did you have sex?
Sperm can live up to 5 or 6 days in your body after sex. If you don't want to get pregnant, there is no safe time to have sex without birth control. Talk to your doctor about your birth control options to find the right one for you.
Pleasure is different for everyone, the important thing is that you enjoy yourself and have fun, either on your period or at any time of the month.