Can virgins use tampons or menstrual cups?

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Popping the cherry, swiping the V card—whatever name you call it, Virginity with a
capital V is huge in many cultures and people are often judged regarding it. This can cause a lot of pressure, especially for people with a vagina and the moment they get their period.

Why? Because some feel like they might not be able to use the period product they want out of fear of “losing their virginity”. Or fear of being judged as “not being virgins anymore”, simply because of the period product they chose.

Here at Ruby Cup, we want to respect everyone’s experiences and desires regarding sex, and for some people, virginity is an important thing to maintain. But nevertheless it is just as important to be able to use the menstrual care product that fits your needs and you feel comfortable with.

That’s why we’ll have a closer look at virginity and using a menstrual cup with some step-by-step tips on how to insert a menstrual cup easily for the first time.

The concept of virginity

What exactly does virginity mean anyway? It might seem simple, but as we start to dig, this question looks a lot more complicated.

As we start to examine virginity, we can realize that this category is created by our culture, not an absolute. No one can define virginity completely, but we do know that society and the concept of virginity have added much more to it than a membrane in the vagina.

On the surface, a virgin is a person who has never had sex. At least that’s what pop culture says. But: what is sex—is it penetration? What about oral sex? Obviously, the idea of how to lose your virginity doesn’t include everyone’s experience of having sex. Some people have sex and are never penetrate or penetrate another person. What about pleasuring a partner with hands? These are all things that could be defined as sex but are not typically when discussing the concept of virginity.

And that’s why we want to address your questions about virginity and menstrual cups with more depth. We often received questions about whether virgins can use menstrual cups, so let’s get down to the answer to this question.

Can a menstrual cup break the hymen?

The most common understanding of “being a virgin” is an intact hymen. The hymen is a membrane that sits at the opening of the vagina and partially covers it. It’s important to highlight that it only partially covers it because when the person starts menstruating, the menstrual fluid has to be able to pass through the vagina. It’s a common misconception that the hymen fully “seals” the opening of the vagina. But if that were the case, no “virgin” could menstruate.

When we think of the hymen like a membrane that fully covers the opening of the vagina, using a tampon or a menstrual cup does sound scary.

The hymen can look very different from person to person. The membrane can have many different shapes, some covering more of the opening of the vagina than others. Some are born with a small hymen, some are even born without a hymen!

So now that you know that things look different, you can rest assured that using a menstrual cup or a tampon will entail popping through the hymen. And it will certainly not take away your virginity.

Does using a menstrual cup affect virginity?

No. You only lose that if you have sex. But using a menstrual cup can interfere with the hymen, as can a tampon. The hymen can also “break” (it would be correct to say stretched) during all sorts of activities, even just exercising.

If your hymen was stretched or ripped (it only rips when not being gentle), because of anything else than having sex, it does not mean you have lost your virginity. So again, that is why using a menstrual cup will not take away your virginity.

Can virgins use a menstrual cup?

Some people worry that if they are a virgin, they can’t use menstrual cups. That is not true—anyone can use a menstrual cup. The type of menstrual product that a person uses shouldn’t be dependent on their virginity, but rather on their needs.

For example, if you have a heavy flow, that’s an important consideration in choosing your menstrual product. The Ruby Cup Medium, for instance, can hold three times of what a super tampon or a pad can hold. So if you have a very heavy period, you should be able to use the product that is most convenient for you.

And since trying something new is always a little bit scary, we want to make it easier for you. That’s why all of our menstrual cups come with a money back guarantee. If you don’t feel comfortable with your Ruby Cup within 4 months of your purchase you can either change the size or get a full refund.

Tips on how to insert and remove a menstrual cup if you’re still a virgin

At Ruby Cup, we want all our customers to feel safe and comfortable, whether they define themselves as virgins or not. Menstrual cups are not just for people that have stretched or “broken” a small membrane in their bodies, whether through sex, physical activity or any other. They are for everybody who wants to have a comfortable, worry-free and eco-friendly period.

Like mentioned above, the hymen does not fully cover the opening of the vagina, so the menstrual cup does not have to pierce through anything. In fact, the hymen much rather stretches than tears. That’s why you should make sure that you are gentle and insert the menstrual cup gradually, not by force.

How to insert a menstrual cup if you’re still a virgin:

1. Make sure you have clean hands
2. Relax. A good time to try a menstrual cup for the first time could be after a hot shower or bath
3. Search for a menstrual cup fold you feel comfortable with. We would recommend the Punchdown fold or the 7-fold. These folds make the cup small at the tip so that you can easily push it past the hymen.
4. Use water-based lube or coconut oil to help insertion. Once you have folded your cup, grip it firm between your fingers and rub some lube on the rim and walls of the menstrual cup.
5. Then squat down or put one foot up on a stool and remember to relax.
6. Gently pull the labia apart with one hand and introduce the menstrual cup slowly. Make sure you insert it in the direction of the rectum, so backwards instead of upwards, as that is the shape of your vaginal canal.
7. Wiggle it slowly from side to side while applying light pressure, pushing it in.

How to remove a menstrual cup if you’re still a virgin:

1. Make sure you have washed your hands
2. Relax and get into the same position you used during insertion
3. Gently separate the labia with one hand, while reaching for the base of the cup with the other.
4. If you can only reach the stem of the cup, use it as a guide to finding the base of the cup. You might have to introduce your index and middle finger and thumb a few centimetres, but that is ok.
5. You can also press the cup down with your stomach and kegel muscles while reaching for the stem or the base of the cup.
6. Never just pull at the stem, it is absolutely important that you release the suction before pulling the cup out.
7. To release the suction pinch the base of the cup firmly or reach one finger high up along the wall of the cup while pressing it against the wall of your vaginal canal, pushing it downwards.
8. Hold the pinch so that the suction does not form again and then pull the cup gently out of your vagina and empty the menstrual fluid in the toilet.

Discussing Hymens and Virginity in East Africa

We discuss virginity in our social impact programs in East Africa as well. When deciding whether to launch one of our distribution programs, we investigate whether menstrual cups are the right fit for the community, because we never want girls to be shamed for using our products.

But as soon as a community accepts the use of Ruby Cups, we set up workshops, discussing things like the difference between virginity and a “broken” hymen, and we make sure that our classrooms are safe spaces for girls to ask questions.

You can start using a menstrual cup as soon as you get your period

As well as losing their virginity, many first-time menstrual cup users are worried that using a menstrual cup could stretch the vagina. Rest assured, it will not. Vaginas are a pretty awesome organ. They have the capability of squeezing a tiny human being out of them, so they are extremely stretchy and flexible. So using a menstrual cup will not stretch your vagina or change its size.

Like mentioned above, we think you should be able to use the period product you feel comfortable with. No matter if you have had sex already or not, it is your body and your choice to take care of it however you want to.

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